Many people feel as if they are going to lose their sanity during a divorce. This doesn't have to be the case. Here are 5 tips to help preserve your sanity as you go through a divorce.
1. Remember that a divorce is primarily a business transaction. Divorce seems to bring emotions to the front of every transaction in the process. But, remember that much of the process involves "business" decisions, e.g., dividing assets and debt, retirement accounts, what to do with the house, martial and non-marital assets, etc.). As with any business transaction, emotion can lead to bad decisions. So, do your best to leave emotion our of decision making during your divorce.
2. Be fair and honest. It is easy to be adversarial in a divorce. The temptation is to try to take everything you can from your soon to be ex-spouse. This is not a smart way to negotiate. Taking the high ground is the best tactic. Be honest about what you need from the divorce settlement, and be fair about what your ex-spouse will need. Even if your ex does not take the high road, you will know that you acted with integrity during the process.
3. Have a support system, starting with a good attorney. During most divorces there will be time of conflict. Get a good attorney to help you though these times. Also rely upon a couple of people in your life you really trust but don't overdo it.
4. Let go. Divorce is a process. Once it's complete, let go and get on with your life. Divorce is an end, but it is also a beginning.
5. Be a happy person. Happy people take care of themselves and others. They forgive, are compassionate, care, and laugh. Reconnect with friends and make new ones as well. Believe in yourself.
Follow these 5 tips to help you get through your divorce.
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